Limiting beliefs keep us well and healthy! They keep our life balanced and safe.
The downside is that they tend to manifest themselves when we say,
- I don’t have enough money
- There isn’t enough time
- I am not talented enough
- I don’t have support
This makes our destiny become self-limiting.
Self-limiting refers to something, either physical or mental, that we create in our mind that limits us.. Just believing we cannot achieve something, stops us from achieving it.
This is a powerful phenomenon. A statement so aptly stated by Mahatma Gandhi theorises,
We often become what we believe ourselves to be.
If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it.
Limiting beliefs may come from the things people said to us and about us while we grew up. They could also come from listening to negative people, watching/listening to negative TV and radio programs, reading negative books and magazines, and repeatedly hearing negative song lyrics.
Our thoughts and beliefs colour our vision and perception of the world. Thoughts and beliefs determine our actions or inactions. Thoughts affect a person’s feelings that in turn affect one’s behavior.
The human belief system acts as a filter through which one sees the world. The beliefs about self, those around us, and the world at large, effect who we are and how we believe. Repetitive thoughts that humans harbor in their minds from as early as childhood form our limiting beliefs. As people continue to grow and mature their inner dialogue backs up their initial beliefs and actions.
Most self- limited beliefs are created during the developmental stages of childhood. As a result studies have proven that most people are a product of their environment.
The family unit, teachers, friends, churches, and the community all effect how these relationships impact how the child interprets their world. If one is raised in home that is parented by adults who have negative limited beliefs themselves they too will develop self-limiting beliefs. The mind is like a sponge, eager to soak up as much information and knowledge.
A self-limiting belief impedes progression toward success.
It is infinitely important to saturate a child’s environment with as much positivity as possible.
This enables a child to develop a strong sense of self.
Children should not be allowed to say negative things about themselves.
They must be taught to say,
“I like myself.”
“I have skills and abilities to help me succeed.”
“I am strong.”
“I can’t tell the truth because I may get judged…”
“I don’t want to get close to this person lest I hurt…”
“I don’t want to ask for what I want because I could be rejected?”
“I can’t trust people because I’ve been betrayed before…”
“I can’t pursue my dreams because I don’t know what I’d do if I fail…”
“I can’t do X because of Y…”
“I can’t do A because of B…”
As adults learned limiting beliefs keep you from happiness and success!!
- Believing you must have certainty to take action.
- Believing you lack the power to create positive outcomes.
- Believing it isn’t safe to speak your truth.
- Fear of judgement and comparison
Caccoon Life Coaching currently offers a free online course for children.
“Keeping your child’s dreams alive.”
4 week course for children
35 minutes each day.
Week 1. Breathing when feeling scared or anxious.
Week 2. Your mistakes are the best amazing learning experiences.
Week 3. Fear. Why do I sometimes feel fear? What is it for?
Week 4. What I believe about…? Life? Me? and my future?
The course comes with a simple playbook.