3 SESSION PACKAGE. Digging deep and unpacking where the client is at, and where they want to be. The final session is designing a successful path forward.
1. Establish a Coaching Agreement
Identify the specific issue for the session.
- What is the issue/goal you would like to focus on today?
- What is important about this for you?
2. Set The Goal or Outcome for The Session
Invite clients to envision their desired outcome.
- How will you know you achieved what you wanted to accomplish today?
- What will that look like or feel like (subjective or objective)?
- Where are you now regarding what you wanted to achieve today?
3. Coach the Client
Starting with the desired outcomes, invite the client to explore different actions or shift perspective for unearthing possible solutions.
- What is the BEST solution for you in this situation?
- What changes or differences might you or others notice?
4. Identify and Commit to Action
The client chooses actions to commit to.
- What might get in the way of accomplishing this?
- How will you support your commitment to this action?
5. Key Outcomes
The client summarizes actions, commitments, and/or perspective shifts.
- What are your take-aways from this session?
- What new awareness or learning happened today?
- How will this support you to go forward?
Coach partners with clients to “hold” their promises to themselves.
- How will you hold yourself accountable to the goal(s) you set today?
- How I can I partner with you to enhance your accountability?
Here the coach might invite some homework, journaling, or other in-between session activity and schedule the next session.
The 3 session package enables the client to explore the very depths of their life, habits, and decisions to discover what is real and what is not. For many of us, there is so much traffic in our minds that we lose clarity about what are our own thoughts and not societies and life outside us.
Do you have an ongoing sense that there are parts of your life that are out of control?
It may only be a faint feeling but you know it’s there and you also know it’s getting in the way of you making any changes.
Are you self-medicating?
or feeling anxious and stressed?
you might use food to give your mood booster alleviate boredom or smoke a joint to help you relax or have a drink or two before going out to settle your nerves and ease any social anxiety or perhaps you turned the Xanax or Valium to help you sleep ADHD medication to help you focus during the day or prescription painkillers to none any grief or stress you’re experiencing at the moment
If any of this resonates with you then there is a good chance you could be feeling the effects of fear isolation or shame I personally believe this happens because we stopped listening to the wise and caring part of ourselves and instead we act and react to the outside world.
Now what do I do?
I specialise in supporting people to reclaim their true sense of self and recover their personal authority.
3 session package
YOU CAN CHANGE IT. YOU HAVE THE CHOICE. IF YOU WANT TO. A WAKE-UP CALL TO ANYONE INTERESTED IN CHANGE. A NEWSFLASH! THIS IS NOT THE ONLY LIFE YOU HAVE AVAILABLE.
You say: What’s that?
I say: It’s simple, this is not the only life you have available. You have a choice and you can change!
You say: My life continually conjures up a random set of incidents and dramas. I just deal with that. It has very little to do with me.
I say: I agree that you believe that.
You say: What are you implying? You’re asking me to change my belief overnight?
I say: I will say it again. All I am saying is that our lives are the sum of all our decisions, the good the bad, and the ugly. I concede that the many millions of decisions that we make are from our “unconscious” and “unaware” states. We have so much traffic and stimuli churning through our psyche at any given moment. that we are “asleep” to what was going on. Those decisions we made were based on beliefs we did not have full control on.
You say: And you want me to be responsible for all that. All the happenings that I had nothing to do with?
I say: Well that’s your decision
You say: Are you asking me to take responsibility for my husband’s infidelity, or my daughter’s suicidal thoughts, the state of my bank account?
I say: No. Accepting your actions and your part in the past helps you regain control of your life.
You say: That’s preposterous!
I say: It takes 2 to tango.
You say: I can’t do anything about the past.
I say: I understand. It’s about awareness. You have a litany of “stuff” that gets in the way of your true self, your true identity.
Types of beliefs.
Right and Wrong beliefs.
It’s up to you to be responsible for all of those decisions and the consequences.
If you are serious about changing your life then it always pays to take 100% responsibility for your existence on this planet.
Taking responsibility for your life, thoughts, actions, and behavior is key to success and true personal development. Being personally responsible means realising that you own your life. You are in charge of your destiny and you are the boss of your thoughts. Taking responsibility for your beliefs might be the most important step ever once you have decided not to be a victim anymore. (A victim of circumstances, of other people´s will, disease, poverty etc.)
Once you know that you are the master of your life, you need to take responsibility for yourself. And when you do, the urge to blame other people, God, life or circumstances, for your failures, will disappear. You realise that you have the power to
- create a change
- leave a situation
- view things from a different angle with a blame-free attitude.
By this, you will gradually take full responsibility for your thoughts, actions, emotions and behaviour. This is really central for personal development and for personal responsibility.
Freedom. 3 session package.
There is great freedom in the fact that we cannot change everything we are not contented with. What we can do however is to change our own attitude and mindset. In that way, there is no reason to get upset or disappointed at things that are out of your control. This is one great way of taking responsibility for your life. Once you stop wasting time and energy on other people´s business, you focus on your own.
Consequently, there is no need to blame others. My personal development guru Wayne Dyer once said that “what other people think of me is not my business”. Nobody should waste valuable time and energy on poking their noses in other people´s lives.
Being there for someone you care for does not mean taking over the responsiblilities for their lives. If you do, you are not helping or supporting, but stopping them from being personally responsible for their lives. You are the owner of your livfe, and so is everyone else.
If you have been badly treated or cheated in the past (personally, financially, emotionally, physically…) you need to accept that it happened. Yes, it happened to you. It was not OK. You hurt. It is bad and sad.
In some cases you were partly responsible too, but you did not know better then. You did not have the insight and knowledge that you possess today. So never blame yourself for things in the past. That is your responsibility right now. Yesterday is gone, today is only now. In other words, the past and the future are only perceptions of the mind. There is only the now, always. As Eckhart Tolle says: “Tomorrow is also now when it happens.”
In mindfulness, there is a great focus on “here and now”. As a matter of fact, nothing else exists but “now”. There is this “now”, there is another “now” and so on. Accordingly, it is pointless to blame yourself for things in the past. The past does not exist. If you want to be a responsible person now, you learn from your past lessons and apply them in your present life.
Being responsable is acting according to your inner voice and listen to your true self. The word means “able to respond”. The opposite of taking responsibility would therefore be to follow the crowd and supress your will. If you do for an extended period of time, you will become bitter. Bitter people complain a lot and often blame others for things that are obviously their own responsibility.
Taking responsibility is simple, but not easy. But it is key to personal development and definitely key to personal success and freedom! Personal responsibility leads to self-respect which excludes the urge to blame others.
Finally an affirmation for moments of weakness (i.e. whenever you think “It is XX´s fault that I am miserable.”):
I am 100% responsible for everything in my life.
3 session package.